Hi I have been reading the nvidia forums about 3d vision and seems some have found a patch to enable checkerboard on their 3dtvs. I am not sure if this will work on your projector but might, look here http://forums.nvidia.com/index.php?showtopic=191819
Also if you get the wrong refresh rate and resolution you should make some custom resolutions.
Are you using a dvi-d to hdmi cable or straight hdmi to hdmi? I seen that you could take off a pin on a dvi port to disable the edid.
I wonder if nvidia 3dtv play or 3d vision will detect your projector as a 3dtv or what? cause not really anyone i've seen has had a hdmi 1.4a projector and have said its working with 3dtv play. If not and your projector has a vga connection you may be able to use that vga port and use 3d vision as a crt monitor connction, but probably is not as good.
Have you tried 3dtv play yet? On my projector I just use vga, its an older model but does the trick.
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