As far as I can tell, the G51VX does not have optimus tech. I do believe I have found out the problem though. I was trying to find out why I am having so many issues with drivers, especially the newer ones and came across this post on the nVidia forums http://forums.nvidia.com/index.php?showtopic=197094
Basically, someone got the Alienware M17X 3d version that came with the GTX460M. 3D worked perfectly fine with the 460m. He then decided to upggrade to the 485m and all of a sudden he was getting the same error about the lcd panel NOT being compatible.
As it turns out, nVidia designs its 3D driver to work with specific model laptop builds. Now someone suggested finding away to add your device id and or panel edid to S3D somehow and that may force it to work but I have no idea which inf would need to be edited.
I can't believe nVidia drivers are pretty much open for desktops. As long as your desktop has an nVidia 3D capable card, glasses and 120hz screen, it will work. But they "whitelist" laptops. Lots of people are pretty upset that they pull this stuff. Im pretty sure if either they, or someone whos good and moding infs could figure this out, i could have my laptop running 3D on the panel i just installed in it. But until then i either am stuck with Tridef which gives really crappy performance, or i guess i could just run anaglyph.
If anyone out there is pretty good at disecting and modding inf files wants to give this a shot, id appreciate it. If you need my videocards dev id or lcd's edid let me know. Thanks.